Family values and the meaning of education
Family values and the meaning of education
A family is a set up that comprises of parents and children. Families are however based on certain values, mostly introduced by the parents, and that dictate their relationship with not only their children but also interactions between the parents themselves. Since all members in a family share relations in common that are supposed to define them, the beliefs and practices set in a family are expected to accommodate everyone though this doesn`t imply overlooking the odds.
Richard Rodriguez opens his essay by presenting himself as a middle-aged man who is confused on how to approach his parents to tell them about his gay personality. He strongly indicates that a family`s believe strongly defines a family. This is evident with the confusion that comes to his mind when he thinks of the correct word to use in such a scenario. He further goes on to give examples of his neighbors to allude to the different meanings of family values in the various countries.
Rodriguez presents America as a country where the male gender dominates the female sex. However feminism is seen to be evolving as the role of the mother is seen to be changing. Economic constraints have pushed ladies to no longer stay at home looking after their children but rather join the fathers to bring fourth food on the table. Though in such families the parents expect their children to have particular social values that maintain morality, the freedom they have and a lot of time away from their parents changes the whole situation. He mentions of friends who have been introduced to gay behavior but having no one to look after them; they end up adopting the practice. Children are presented as having authority to leave their homes to live on their own where they acquire a non-formal education that brings forth characters that completely distinguish them from their parents.
By making a comparison of the American family system with Asian family system, he presents the America as a society where family trust is broken as children have evolved to behavior that makes them not to care about their parents. However according to the culture in which the society is build up, families end up with values that do not accommodate all the members. This has not only brought suspicions among family members but has rather fueled fear and mistrust between parents and children. This is evident in the conclusion of the article in which Richard describes his feelings towards his father and how unsure he is about the parents’ reaction as he is afraid that his “little secret” may have been discovered.
In his article on The Lonely, Richard describes how he manages to overcome the loneliness brought about by reading and instead converts it to comfort that provides unending warmth. Having been brought up in a family where the reading culture was nonexistent, Richard explains how he views reading as tiresome and even goes further to explain how he could not find a companion in books. After going through a program that brings out the reading interest in him, his attitude towards reading comes to a change that even surprises his mother.
His reading ability develops from the inability to read single sentence words to the extent of reading adult books at fourth grade. Despite being a hater of books in his previous life, attitude change develops his passion for knowledge making him an example for motivating other students to read. Despite having parents who do not see the essence of ‘staring’ at a book, as they call it, his quest for knowledge develops to the extent of shocking the society as his seniors are forced to hide some books from him. He displays his teachers as having played a major role in his academic progress. By building a healthy academic relationship with his teachers, he can get guidelines from them and also make inquiries on the books to read.
Rodgers article on overcoming loneliness with books is a classical example of hidden benefits of studying. As evident from his story, learning plays a major role in improving not only literacy skills but also communication skills (Rodriguez 223). As he puts it, reading enables one to express themselves both in oral communication and written forms. By reading books written by different authors, one comes across experiences of several characters faced with different situations in which they have had to express themselves. Different storylines also introduce us into different vocabularies which play a big role in influencing the way we express ourselves.
Being in an ever changing society, reading plays a significant role in exposing us to the current community and emerging issues. Getting to explore difference experiences from writers all over the globe significantly influences the way we view things. This also impacts our way of thinking as one can go a step further from the general ways in which ordinary people see things. One becomes familiar with societal odds and is in a position to solve most of the problem expected to come his/her way.
Studying should not be considered as a way of eliminating loneliness but rather as a tool for development of a better-enlightened person. As Rodgers puts it, books provide a platform that distinguishes one from the common way of viewing things and expands a mind that can deal with the current society.